When it comes to sending a son or daughter off to college for the very
first time it can be a very trying time on both parent and child. Most
children want very much to be independent and truly want to make the
most of their time away from home, but the initial transition can leave
them both sad and feeling alone.Many parents want to make their child's college experience and time away from home both successful and productive as this will assist them to not only gain their independence but to begin their very own life which is an crucial part of this transitory phase of life. In order to do so a parent must temper their ability to be there for their child with the ability to stand aside and for some parents this can be a bit of a challenge. As a matter of fact some parents find this a really difficult task.
For parents who are truly looking for ways to be helpful to their
children the very last thing that your child needs is reminders of home.
During the first few months of college most freshmen are already
focused, and in some cases even fixated on home, so while parents may
think it helpful to send those reminders from home it is truly not the
best possible idea if your goal is to help your child transition.
Sending your child new items and things that are distinct will allow them to know that you are thinking of them without triggering that homesick response and will really help to get them over the hump. It is also critical to send funny, happy stuff to your college freshman as opposed to sending them sappy, mushy, I miss you items that may do more to make them sad than happy. Obviously, if your freshman makes a specific request of you, like for their beloved home baked cookies, then by all means fill that request as this will mean a lot to them.
All in all many well-intentioned parents actually wind up hurting their college freshman more than supporting them by sending them nostalgic items while they are away. Instead of doing this pick them up a nice new product for their dorm room or living space or send them a gift card to go shopping. It is always wonderful to receive items from home that don't send the student crying into their pillow at night.
Sending your child new items and things that are distinct will allow them to know that you are thinking of them without triggering that homesick response and will really help to get them over the hump. It is also critical to send funny, happy stuff to your college freshman as opposed to sending them sappy, mushy, I miss you items that may do more to make them sad than happy. Obviously, if your freshman makes a specific request of you, like for their beloved home baked cookies, then by all means fill that request as this will mean a lot to them.
All in all many well-intentioned parents actually wind up hurting their college freshman more than supporting them by sending them nostalgic items while they are away. Instead of doing this pick them up a nice new product for their dorm room or living space or send them a gift card to go shopping. It is always wonderful to receive items from home that don't send the student crying into their pillow at night.
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